Marriage is one of the most beautiful commitments in a couple’s life.
The expectation of having a long life together with the loved one, feeling protected, safe and special, makes anyone think that life with their spouse will always be a bed of roses.
1. Respect Your Spouse’s Privacy
2. Don’t Try to Change the Person You Love
3. Enjoy Every Present Moment
4. Don’t Make Room for Assumptions
5. Motivation, A Secret To Being Better
In the beginning, the whole relationship is natural. Everything runs smoothly.
For it’s the phase in which passion overflows.
Dreams are shared and a powerful bond called true love is created.
A lot of things change in the marriage throughout the years.
The passion simply diminishes because the couple enters into a routine full of responsibilities and obligations.
This is when true love begins to grow. It is at this point that “work” comes in.
Passion is easy but true love takes effort and commitment.
This mutual striving of love is what grounds a relationship giving it a solid base.
As the children arrive, the family grows as do the plans in the couple’s life.
Everything contributes to the love becoming more solid and stronger each day.
How can you ensure your marriage remains
a ”bed of roses”
Although you feel completely happy with your spouse, and the life you have built together, there will always be adversities to overcome for the marriage to remain a bed of roses.
Waking up with your spouse, sharing meals and experiencing quality moments is not enough to keep love alive.
The relationship requires more than displays of affection. It’s much more complex.
In other words, for the marriage to always be as you imagined it in the beginning, “pink”, there are many aspects that you must take into consideration.
The Path To Genuine Commitment
Committing to your partner is not just signing some papers and moving in together. It is much more!
It is being present in good times and bad.
It is anticipating the needs of the other, solving problems together. It is communicating assertively, relieving burdens and being empathetic.
That is, it is being committed, learning from each other and motivating yourself to feel complete.
Your marriage can remain pink at first. To ensure true love has strong roots in your marriage, consider the following tips:
# 1 Respect Your Spouse’s Privacy
Being in a relationship does not mean you forget yourself. Is wanting to be alone an indicator that something is wrong in your relationship?
No.
When we forget about ourselves and ignore our needs, this is reflected, sooner or later, and in the health of the relationship itself.
We know that social relations are somewhat complicated. We all think, act and have different interests in life. The same thing happens in a marriage.
There is time for everything: for the couple and the individual space
The concept of the couple is related to two individuals, in marriage it is different, as both are individual and independent people, who have ideas, customs and personal goals.
Even though you want to do everything with your spouse, you must think that he also needs space to achieve his dreams.
It’s important that in each relationship space for privacy is provided.
As frightening as it is to hear from your partner that he wants space, it doesn’t have to be something negative or a sign that the relationship is going badly.
Rather, it is a way for the couple to have time for themselves, individually.
This will unite you more. In doing so, you will both feel satisfied and complete with yourself.
# 2 Don’t Try to Change the Person You Love
It is common, when living together, that some behaviors or attitudes bother or displease you. Deep in your heart, you may want it to change so you can have a better relationship.
However, true love is not to change the partner, but to accept him as he is, with all his faults and virtues, with his conceptions, manias or bad habits.
Changes are made through actions, not words. The most pertinent words in the world will not make the person change because you want them to, no matter how much you like them.
The decision to change will come only from the person.
Your words may convince the person but it is only their attitude that will make a difference.
Don’t blame yourself if you haven’t been able to convince someone to be better.
You must not intervene and fight to change your spouse, but accept them, be more tolerant and patient.
In the end, he or she will change without having to be reminded and will take the initial step on their own.
# 3 Enjoy Every Present Moment
We all have plans for the future. It is normal. However, some couples forget to live and enjoy the present for the sole purpose of ensuring their family’s future well-being.
If you want your wedding to be pink, don’t just think about the future.
Learn to enjoy every moment, every day and every moment with your spouse.
Live in the here and now.
Take time to build meaningful experiences with your husband or wife. Experiences that will be kept in the heart, in the memory and the past.
Live each day as if it were the last, so you can appreciate everything you have.
# 4 Don’t Make Room for Assumptions
One of the most common mistakes couples make is to assume to know what the other is thinking without asking first.
If you stopped assuming what your partner wants, thinks or feels, your conflicts or arguments would disappear completely.
Learn to listen and try to understand your partner beyond what your words say.
This way you will be more empathetic and discover the reasons for their behaviors or attitudes.
Be the person who takes the initiative to talk, to have good communication.
Let your spouse express themselves with complete freedom, confidence and security.
Avoid judging and complaining when something doesn’t feel right to you. Just listen.
# 5 Motivation: A Secret To Being Better
All couples must keep their motivation alive in one way or another. Goals may change and the dreams you had at the beginning can be different.
Thus, they need to find a way to motivate each other to maintain complete happiness.
So they may unite to fight together in the face of every adversity.
What motivates you and what is your goal?
What do you want to achieve?
These are questions that can be answered together to proceed together on the same path.
Remember love is like a plant that needs to be watered daily to grow strong.
Consequently, value and dedicate yourself to making the most of your relationship now.
Live your marriage each day as if it were the last day of your life.
